Just Like Me
By Ron Harris
NOVEMBER 9, 1998:
The question was pretty straightforward. Hell, even I could understand
it. Now, Im going to mention some individuals and groups in
society, it read. For each, I want you to tell me whether you
think this individual or group in general shares (a) most of your
moral and ethical values, (b) some of your moral and ethical values,
or (c) hardly any. How about
?
The question was from one of those ubiquitous polls, the kind
that politicians use to figure out the politically expedient thing
to say and that journalists use to figure out why politicians
say things that they dont believe. This one was done recently
by The Washington Post and Harvard University.
Of the 50-plus questions, this one in particular caught my eye.
It was, as they say, telling. Much of what it told, Im still
trying to figure out. For instance, it told me that Americans
felt that they shared more moral and ethical values in common
with black people than they did with President Clinton, Vice-President
Gore, the two major political parties, or the religious right.
Hmmm!
Americans also said that they shared more of their moral and ethical
values in common with immigrants than they did with Newt Gingrich.
Hmmmmmmmm! Of all the categories, the runaway winners were older
Americans. Of those polled, 55 percent said that they felt that
older Americans shared most of their moral and ethical values.
The runners-up, whites and poor people, came in a distant 27 percent.
Maybe the respondents forgot that older Americans break down into
all those subgroups, i.e., blacks, immigrants, whites, conservative,
liberal, Republican, Democrat. Actually, the numbers just further
prove an axiom uttered by John Huston as the villainous Noah Cross
in the movie Chinatown.
Ugly buildings, politicians, and whores all get to be respectable
if they stick around long enough, he said. Doubters need only
consider South Carolina Sen. Strom Thurmond.
But I didnt come to bore you with statistics. I came to explore
a myth. Only 7 percent of Americans felt that welfare recipients
shared most of their values. Yeah, you know, welfare recipients,
the people who we seem to think are living fat on the public dole.
I wanted to see these welfare scourges up close. So I tracked
down Lakisa DeBerry, 26, and her sister Chandra Carroll, 24. No
wading through a bunch of names for the right profile, just the
first people who popped up.
Lakisa applied for food stamps this week. It was her second time
around. The first time was shortly after she and her husband separated.
She was all of 21 with two children. Times were tight. Eventually
the couple was reunited. They struggled until her husband got
a job as a forklift driver for Coca-Cola. She worked too, but
he was the real breadwinner.
They bought a house and decorated it. They bought a car and took
family vacations to Houston and Galveston and Chicago and Sardis
Lake. Their kids watched Nickelodeon. Then her husband got laid
off. Times got tight again. And then her husband was killed and
Lakisha found herself back down on Third and Mitchell.
Chandra was an honor student with scholarships to some of the
finest colleges in America when she fell in love with the wrong
guy, with whom she had four children. Children have to eat. Pride
wouldnt let her take any more from her parents, so she applied
for AFDC and food stamps. They eventually cut her back to just
food stamps because Chandra worked. Chandra almost always worked.
She worked for two and a half years at Federal Express during
the day while she studied computer repair in the evenings. She
worked at Bryce Inc. while attending Shelby State. After four
years she has finally landed a job at the post office. Now the
last thing she ever wants to see again are food stamps or the
people at the Department of Human Services.
I met these people, and I met their children and I met their parents
father, a PBX engineer for BellSouth; mom, day-care owner and
operator and I wondered, which of their moral and ethical values
do Americans find distasteful?
Michael Harris at DHS knows what Im talking about. Harris is
not a spokesperson for the department. He is a case manager, and
as such he works closely with people like Lakisa and Chandra.
He knows that they are just like you and me, all of us just a
mistake, just an illness, a death in the family, a job layoff,
or two months of missed paychecks away from being in need of his
assistance.
Yet, those who come to his door have been painted with a cruel
brush that says they are people of low character, aberrant personalities
comfortable living at subsistent levels in crowded, crime-ridden
public housing. Think about it for a minute. How can we believe
that?
They want the same thing that I want and everybody that I know
wants, says Harris, They want a good paying career or a business,
a safe neighborhood where they dont have to run from gangsters
every night. They want education for their children, to know that
their children are being taken care while they are at work, and
to know that their children are under medical insurance.
I know what Harris means. And he knows that I know, because he
knows that just a little over a year ago I stood like Lakisa and
Chandra in that same food-stamp line at Third and Mitchell looking
for someone to lend me a helping hand.

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